[M] Cheating Cost You More Than You Think

It's such a typical lame excuse: “Men can’t help flirting because it’s hard-wired into our systems. It’s all part and parcel of evolution and propagating our genes.” I’ve heard some men say it with such nonchalance, as though women aren’t part of the evolutionary equation.

 

Yes, we women realise there’s a science behind flirting, and that it serves a functional purpose in the larger scheme of things that ensures the survival of our species. Yet, there are lines you just aren’t supposed to cross when you’re committed in an exclusive relationship. So, to help men better understand the boundaries of flirting (online or in real life) that should never be traversed, here are four transgressions we’d probably never forgive, nor forget.

 

1. Having A Physical Affair

Obviously, this is No. 1 on the sin list. It’s really a no-brainer, especially when you look at the sheer number of women who are lashing out at recently disgraced sportsmen – like trampin’ Tiger and rompin’ Rooney – for their sexual indiscretions. Yet there’s ironically a silver lining to it: This sort of cheating is one that makes moving on the easiest. And if the woman is married, she’ll get to sue the living daylights out of her husband for going astray.

 

 

 

2. Flirting On Social Media

Most women can turn a blind eye to harmless flirting – for example, a poke on Facebook or an occasional smiley in your SMS. But don’t even think about “sexting” or taking the next step to ask someone out for a drink. This is as good as a lead-on to a physical affair. Just so you know, women do occasionally scan their men’s mobile phones with an eagle eye. (Don’t judge. We know of guys who do the same.) Putting one too many smileys in your SMSes will only send alarm bells ringing. So, learn to manage the tone of your messages that will differentiate the platonic girl friend from your partner.

 

 

 

3. Hiding The Closeness Of Your Friendship With Another Woman

Ever found yourself lunching with a female colleague or former classmate and neglecting to tell your partner about it? Joanna, a friend of mine who’s a successful career woman, struggled to appear cool about a blossoming friendship between her husband and his former schoolmate. “This evokes the worst kind of jealousy,” she says, “especially after I find out from his text messages that they’ve been meeting for coffee quite often.”

 

To you, the other female soulmate in your life may just be a childhood pal who knows all your embarrassing moments and share your same sense of humour. But know this: To your partner, she’s “The Other Woman” – and must either be kept in her

place or eradicated.

 

Telling your partner about your friendship with another girl will help her feel more involved and reassured that everything is vanilla. But if you feel the need to hide a close relationship without a convincing reason, chances are you’ve already crossed the line emotionally.

 

 

4. Having A Drunken Make-Out Session With Someone Else

This excuse is just plain pathetic. Getting high on booze doesn’t give one the license to misbehave without having to face the consequences. Says Dilys, a 26-year-old teacher whose ex-boyfriend confessed to her he had a one-night stand after a drunken night out: “The admission didn’t help; I ended the relationship. It’s not fair that the guy gets possessive over his girl but insists on having fun on the side.”

Of course, we could list many more grey situations such as platonic dates with the ex or frequent porn-watching habits. The lines may be blurred but, at the end of the day, honesty, communication and sticking to the pre-agreed boundaries in a monogamous relationship are your safest bets.  


Good luck. Cherish what you have.


Put social network aside, Focus on connecting this year!  Start having a deep emotional connection, give each other the attention that both deserve and enjoy a great relationship.

Appreciate what you have and work on it instead of trying to find the perfect one. 

 

[F] Skin Care Routine to Remain Youthful and Radiant + Basic Natural Makeup

Notice how she looks before and after the makeup. Suitable to watch for guys too at the start as she explains each step slowly and thoroughly. Hope these help to reduce the blemishes.

This is a really good basic to start you up with your beauty regime. Love yourself first before loving others.

[M] 5 Minutes is All You Have!

Make The Right Impression 


You don't have a lot of time to impress a woman on your first meeting. A recent poll conducted by dating agency revealed that 66 per cent of people take just half an hour to decide if they’d see the other person again. 16 per cent of respondents took only five minutes to do so while another 5 per cent knew “immediately”.

“Especially in today’s society, we’re so used to both demanding and getting instant information, that we’ve become a bit impatient and closed off, sometimes to our own detriment.” 

Here’s how to make a good impression in a hurry.

Look Your Best
Yes, it can be that simple. You’re essentially selling yourself so if your packaging doesn’t look good, what makes you think you’re going to get picked off the shelf? Says blogger Holly Jean, “To make the best impression you can, it's easy, just look your best. If you go on a date and didn't bother to like iron your shirt or something, you're just letting yourself down and selling yourself short.”

 

 

Stand Up Straight

After your initial approach, her brain will work to see how you match up. Parallel her body language to avoid coming on too strong. Don’t mirror her exactly; just match her physical tone. If she’s animated, you’re animated. If she’s subdued, so are you. Avoid aggressive postures such as placing your hand on a cocked hip, or standing with legs apart.

 

Not like this!

 

 

Avoid A Square Table

Square tables create a barrier that can comfort a woman if you’re approaching her for the first time. Circular tables create a more intimate feel by removing the edges or boundaries between you. 

 

 

Don’t Be A Yes-Man

“Being too agreeable actually hurts you,” says Paul Eastwick, PhD, an assistant professor of psychology at Texas A&M University. “If you agree with everything she says, you come across as submissive or weak. You’re not her best friend yet; you’re still trying to establish yourself as someone unique and interesting.”

 

 

Smile And Make Good Eye Contact

Researchers from Texas State University at San Marcos surveyed speed-daters’ judgments based on 30 seconds of interaction. Women who had positive first impressions gave five reasons. Three of the five: The man communicated well, had a great smile and acted friendly.

 

 

Don't Hog The Conversation

Eastwick’s research reveals that both men and women say the best dates have a 60-40 split – you talk about the other person 60 per cent of the time, and yourself 40 per cent. So ask questions, listen and respond accordingly. You want to focus mostly on her while still communicating information about yourself.



Good luck!
 

Types of Hugs

Our most favourite things to feel love is probably hugs. So let us explore how to hug properly and which hugs are to be used for which occassion. Here are some teachings to you and hope that you will be able to express yourself successfully.
First of all, I'm going to point out some hugging no-no's

The one hander:

Never use this hug, ever. Unless it's the kind of person no-one wants to hug

The 'I dont know how close I should get'

If you dont know how close to get to that person, don't hug them. If they expect a hug, give them a normal hug ( for advice see below)

The "too much"

Pretty self explanatory, too much passion, too much squeeze, too much of everything.

Different Hug Types:

Now that you know what I consider bad hugs, I will tell you what I think are appropriate hugs.

From a friendly hug to a passionate squeeze, hugging is the universal language of love, comfort, and friendship. Read through this list of different types of hugs and pick a few to try with your sweetie. If you have an different type of hug that you'd like to see here, submit it and we'll add it to the list.

More Hug Types:

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'I Love You' Hug

A close cheek-to-cheek hug that says "I Love You" even more with an added kiss on the lips. Body pressed against each other and you feel the warmth, the closeness and the tenderness. Use your hands and slide across the back firmly to give more supportive rub. Reserve these for your partners only.

'I Want You Now' Hug

A close hug with a bit of rubbing and grinding. Some squeezing of the shoulder and chest with your arms while in the hugging position. Top it up with a few kissed and drive your partner to cloud 9.

Big Bear Hug

Pull your partner in really, really, really close, put your arms completely around them, and squeeze tight. SqueeZE!!! You probably will use this when you really miss the person or when you are parting at the airport.

Butt Squeeze Hug

A sexy, passionate hug. Pull your partner in close, lift your leg around their legs and give their butt a passionate squeeze.

Ecstatic Jump-n-Hug

Run at your partner and jump into their arms with excitement! Guys, learn to receive these in times of built up anticipation!! Buff up your muscles and catch your lady securely in your arms.  

Friendly Hug

Put your arms lightly around your partner's shoulders and give a gentle squeeze. No chest / leg / much shoulder contact for initial dates if you intend to hug.

Group Hug

A hug involving multiple people - family or friends - where you all put your arms around one another. Guys, make sure that your hands and arms are no where near the sensitive areas or the ladies will think that you are taking the chance. Never give others that impression! If you happen to brush by the areas, if you did not realise it at the moment, either say sorry if accident occur or pretend nothing happened at all so she will think you did not even notice it. She'll probably let it go.

Half Hug

A quick wrap, lightly touching your partner where your arms only go halfway around (hence, half a hug).

Hello & Goodbye Hug

A quick, semi-close hug paired with a kiss on the cheek.

Hug of Joy

A semi-close hug with excitement and movement that often times includes a bit of excitement jumping. Guys, make use of the opportunity to use this during celebrations like New Year's Countdown, Birthday celebrations and Christmas. You'll never know when else you have have that first hug with your crush if you are a really shy person. 

Snuggle Hug

Usually works best when sitting on a couch, etc. Drape your arm around your partner's shoulders and snuggle up in close! Find yourself a comfortable positioin and relax together.

Spoon Hug

While not normally thought of as a hug, the 'spoon' is essentially your arms wrapped around your partner -- a hug! While lying in bed on your side, pull your partner close and wrap your body around theirs in a 'spoon' position.

Sympathy Hug

Pull your partner close and lay their head lightly on your shoulder as you give their back a light rub.

Tree Hug

Find a large tree (perhaps while picnic-ing), and each partner wrap their arms around the tree to meet the other partner's hands.

Remember hugging rule number 1: a firm hug is a good hug, just dont strangle the person your hugging.

[M] Keep Her Interest by Being Interesting

The babe you're trying to chat up will probably have to put up with a million other guys like you who are trying to impress her. So ditch the tall tales of how many sports cars you own, or how many countries you've explored and just follow these steps to maintain her interest.


Go Hard, Fall Gracefully
Be humble. Show confidence without putting on airs. A woman will sense - and evade - any false swagger, so disable that mechanism. If you flop, fail with a smile.
Be confident and relaxed, says Lyn, 30. Use a conversation starter like “Do you come here often? The music is good, huh?”she suggests. “Just don't be cocky.”


Stop Trying For Clever
Start with a "hi". Your initial goal should be simply to prove that you're a normal, well-adjusted guy. Once you've learned more about her through conversation, turn on the charm.
Being direct works fine, says Elaine, 27. “There's no need to be too funny especially if she doesn't get your joke and you end up having to repeat it and then you end up looking like a bigger loser, especially in a noisy club.” she says. “Just ask “How are you?” is a good enough ice-breaker.”

Get Her Hooked On Your Interests
If you love playing the guitar, teach her to pick out the different parts of a song. Passion is contagious and opening her up to new things will make her want you more. What if you can't play a guitar? Then go and learn it, quickly!

[F] Makeup Glamour Yet Natural with Well Defined Eyes

Learn to create these looks for everyday and feel confident.




Michelle Phan demenstrating how to bring your whole day's makeup to 4 different occasion from Natural to Work to Romantic to Party Clubbing look.

[F] Find Great Guys at These 15 Hot Spots

PLACES TO MEET MEN:

You always hear that you have to "put yourself out there" when you're single, but no one is ever specific about where exactly "out there" is. Below are 15 places to check out on your mission to meet men.


1. The office: There’s no better place than the office to meet single, successful men with similar interests (and who’ve already been prescreened for you by HR and your co-workers.)

2. Gym: Hot guys with toned bodies, need we say more?

[F] Create Loose Waves like Blake Lively's and Kate Hudson's to Dazzle Him

Blake Lively Inspired Glamorous Boho Loose Curls Hair with Plaits by Foxy (9:38)

Kate Hudson Inspired Hair with Natural Waves

If you have some spare time at home or if you are preparing to got for a major event, why not try out curling your hair? Create loose casual natural looking waves and dazzle him with the romantic hairstyle without looking over-done.



Advise not to do this for first date if you have not tried this in case something goes wrong...