[M] 5 Minutes is All You Have!

Make The Right Impression 


You don't have a lot of time to impress a woman on your first meeting. A recent poll conducted by dating agency revealed that 66 per cent of people take just half an hour to decide if they’d see the other person again. 16 per cent of respondents took only five minutes to do so while another 5 per cent knew “immediately”.

“Especially in today’s society, we’re so used to both demanding and getting instant information, that we’ve become a bit impatient and closed off, sometimes to our own detriment.” 

Here’s how to make a good impression in a hurry.

Look Your Best
Yes, it can be that simple. You’re essentially selling yourself so if your packaging doesn’t look good, what makes you think you’re going to get picked off the shelf? Says blogger Holly Jean, “To make the best impression you can, it's easy, just look your best. If you go on a date and didn't bother to like iron your shirt or something, you're just letting yourself down and selling yourself short.”

 

 

Stand Up Straight

After your initial approach, her brain will work to see how you match up. Parallel her body language to avoid coming on too strong. Don’t mirror her exactly; just match her physical tone. If she’s animated, you’re animated. If she’s subdued, so are you. Avoid aggressive postures such as placing your hand on a cocked hip, or standing with legs apart.

 

Not like this!

 

 

Avoid A Square Table

Square tables create a barrier that can comfort a woman if you’re approaching her for the first time. Circular tables create a more intimate feel by removing the edges or boundaries between you. 

 

 

Don’t Be A Yes-Man

“Being too agreeable actually hurts you,” says Paul Eastwick, PhD, an assistant professor of psychology at Texas A&M University. “If you agree with everything she says, you come across as submissive or weak. You’re not her best friend yet; you’re still trying to establish yourself as someone unique and interesting.”

 

 

Smile And Make Good Eye Contact

Researchers from Texas State University at San Marcos surveyed speed-daters’ judgments based on 30 seconds of interaction. Women who had positive first impressions gave five reasons. Three of the five: The man communicated well, had a great smile and acted friendly.

 

 

Don't Hog The Conversation

Eastwick’s research reveals that both men and women say the best dates have a 60-40 split – you talk about the other person 60 per cent of the time, and yourself 40 per cent. So ask questions, listen and respond accordingly. You want to focus mostly on her while still communicating information about yourself.



Good luck!