How to be a Good Wife (Part 2)

Be a Good Companion

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   Meet your husband's needs without compromising your own. If he needs more sex, then open your mind to the possibilities. If he needs time with friends or time to pursue a hobby, then don't be possessive. He'll be happier, and he'll be grateful to you for your respect. You should meet his needs, or at least some of them, without doing anything that feels uncomfortable to you.
   
   

   

   • If he wants more sex, then consider having more sex with him, or think about why it doesn't appeal to you.
   • If he's missing his time out with the boys, let him have a boy's night and have a girl's night of your own.
   • If he wants time to pursue his hobbies, let him take the time. He'll grow as a person from doing his own thing, and this will benefit your relationship.
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   Be your husband's best friend. Develop true intimacy and unconditional acceptance. Demonstrate a willingness to be vulnerable, and be confident that your relationship can withstand conflict. Enjoy your shared history and your inside jokes. Forward him articles you know that he'll find interesting or just sit with him in companionable silence. Even your silence will say volumes when your marriage is strengthened by true friendship.
   
   

   

   • Though you should maintain other meaningful friendships so your life is full of love and laughter, at the end of the day, your husband should be the person that you turn to.
   • Aim to be the person that your husband has the most fun with instead of his best friend or his favorite uncle. You should be his #1 go-to person, whether he needs a good laugh or a good cry.
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   Create shared dreams. Never lose sight of the dreams that you share. Whether your dreams include retiring to a warm climate or taking a trip abroad for your twentieth anniversary, embrace your dreams, talk about them and take steps to make them happen. If you and your husband's dreams don't intersect, then you'll be creating a rift as you both move further towards your goals, or if one of you doesn't get what he or she wants. ^[2]
   
   

   

   • It's healthy to have your own dreams along with your husband's, but you should make sure that none of your dreams are completely in conflict.
   • Even if your shared dreams are lofty, you still need to talk about them to keep your passion alive.
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   Maintain your own identity. Make sure you still have a fun and interesting life. If your husband left tomorrow, would you still have your own friends that you see at least once a month, hobby clubs you go to or sports that you play? If not, your husband will always be working to fill a void he cannot fill, and will feel inadequate. When you're fulfilled as an individual, then you have a lot more to bring to the relationship. You will be a much better companion if you can draw from your own interests, experiences, and insights.^[3]
   
   

   

   • If your husband thinks that he's the only good thing happening in your life, then he's bound to feel trapped.
   • Continue to pursue the hobbies or interests that were meaningful to you before the relationship. Though you may not be able to keep up with all or most of them, you should make time for the ones that were really meaningful to you.
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   Work together to manage stress. Men and women deal with stress all day and every day. Do what you can to help each other deal with the stress of every day life. Making sure that you are able to cope with your own stresses will take pressure off of your marriage. If one of you is chronically stressed out while the other doesn't understand why, then you'll have a problem.
   
   

   

   • Help your husband manage his stress by talking about it and treating him with extra care when he's had a rough day instead of making him feel worse by being angry that he's tired or withdrawn.
   • When you're stressed, let your husband know how you're feeling so he can pick up the slack around the house and help you out.

Make Time for Romance

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   Make time for "date night." No matter how busy you are, how stressful your job is, or how many kids you have, you need to make time to spend a romantic evening with your husband. If you don't have kids, aim for once a week, and if you do, try to squeeze in a date once every two weeks or as often as you can. Though it may sound corny, dressing up and going somewhere nice and special can renew your romantic connection and give you a breath of fresh air away from your home.
   
   

   

   • Your "date night" doesn'thave to be romantically-themed. You can go bowling, play mini-golf, or even go for a night run together. Just do whatever you can to connect and spend some time together.
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   Schedule sex into your life. You may feel that sex has to be spontaneous, but if you don't add it to your schedule, you may start to neglect it. Without the frequent intimate acceptance and love that comes from your lovemaking, a person can become dissatisfied, grumpy, and ultimately suffer from feelings of rejection and even anger. Remember lovemaking gives an intimacy and physical release that is vital for both of you.
   
   

   

   • In most relationships, each partner has different needs and expectations regarding the frequency of physical intimacy. Find a happy medium with your husband. Couples who feel responsible for meeting the needs of their lover tend to be happier in their relationship.^[4]
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   Kiss passionately. After a while, you make due with a peck on the lips instead of with full-on French kissing. Make it a goal to share at least one six-second kiss with your husband each day, or every morning and night, even if you don't have more time for intimacy than that. You don't want your husband to think that kissing you is no different than dutifully kissing his children -- the passion should still be present in your kisses.
   
   

   

   • When you do make love, don't go straight to sex. Make sure that kissing is an integral part of your love making. It's great foreplay.
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   Make your bedroom a sanctuary for sex. Ban television sets, laptops and work-related materials. Your bedroom should be dedicated to sleep and sex. If you bring in your children's toys, the nightly news, or the extra work you have to do, then you won't think of your bedroom as a special and sacred place. Maintaining an area of the house for sleep and sex will make your love -- and lovemaking -- feel more special and vital to your relationship.^[5]
   
   

   

   • You and your husband can work together to remove any irrelevant items from your bedroom. This can also turn in to a fun couple's activity.

   
   

   
   

   
   

   
   

   Learn and grow well together. :D 

   
   

   From WikiHow.

   http://m.wikihow.com/Be-a-Good-Wife